When setting goals we need to make sure the factors for achieving the goals are within our own control. For example, wanting to make a certain sports team, or wanting to be the top student in a class are goals, but they have factors we cannot control (a coach’s perspective, other student’s efforts and achievements). If we change the focus of the goal to be something that we have control over (e.g., to improve in our sport or class by practicing X amount per week) we encourage hard work and effort. Hard work and effort will result in growth and growth can lead to the achievement of the overarching goal (making the team or being top in the class). Having a dream is important, and creating goals that lead us on the path to achieve the dream sets us up for success and to build resilience.